Overwhelmed at the thought of finding a therapist?
It’s not the easiest thing. Do an online search, read the first few lines of a paragraph, check out some photos…. All the while wondering ~ Is this the person who can help me? A therapist who can really help me?
Hi, I’m Tori. While living in Eugene, I spent some time on the other side of that screen. I was looking for a therapist I could trust. A counselor who wouldn’t judge, or be freaked out by anything I might say.
I’d pushed myself to the point of exhaustion. I was practically killing myself trying to be the perfect student, perfect mom, and Eugene, Oregon’s best Graduate Teaching Fellow. When one degree wasn’t enough, I decided to chase another. I was certain becoming a lawyer would finally make me feel good about myself. I was positive it would once and for all drown out the fear, negative self talk, anxiety, and self doubt.
I think most people saw a driven, (fairly high strung) over achiever who seemed to have it together. What they didn’t see was a woman terrified of not being “enough.” I was filled with doubt, having trouble sleeping, hated my body, and felt like I was floating away. My inner critic was having a field day with all its anxiety:
“What’s wrong with me?” “I should be grateful for my life.” “What if I can’t do it?” “Why can’t I feel happy?” “What if everyone finds out I’m a fraud?”
Anxiety led to anger, followed by blame, shame, regret, and fear. That’s when I knew I needed counseling. I started looking for a therapist in Eugene that I could trust, and be able to help get me out of this destructive cycle of anxiety and depression. Someone who wouldn’t be afraid to talk about the complexities of polyamory and bi-sexuality.
So began a life-long journey of self-discovery. I worked on understanding how trauma affected the (sometimes crazy) choices in my life. I ditched my studies at University of Oregon, survived a divorce, and here I am years later… counseling.
I specialize in anxiety, panic attacks, OCD, bi-sexuality, polyamory, gender exploration ~ and most importantly ~ connection.
Today – like everyone – I have plenty of stressors in my life. As a member of an extended step-family I’ve experienced the stress, difficulties and joys of blending families. I’m now the mother of an adult child on their own journey filled with bumps and bruises.
Change is constant. Change is scary. Change is the way forward. Positive change is possible.
Improving the relationship we have with ourselves and others is the best change of all.
I am passionate about my chosen work. Therapy is one key to re-discovering who you really are. How to show up as your authentic self.
It IS possible to rekindle those small moments of wonder and awe.
Let’s do it. I offer a free 20 minute phone consultation. Send me an email ~ tell me a bit about yourself. We’ll set up a time to talk.
Love brought me to this healing journey.
It can do the same for you.
Rediscover the joy of simplicity.
- Masters of Social Work, Portland State University 1996
- Anxiety Specialist
- Adult Children of Alcoholics
- Extensive Training in Trauma
- Certified with The Grief Recovery Institute
- Certification in EMDR
- Bachelors Degree Liberal Arts; Minor in Gender Studies Portland State University 1987
- Graduate Teaching Fellow; Romance Languages University of Oregon 1988-1991
- Accepted to law school but didn’t go. Thank goodness or I wouldn’t be here!
- Ongoing national workshops, trainings and seminars